But seriously, just people in general should have some things they do with just themselves. Reading, bubble baths, painting, something! It's the stuff that makes you feel at peace with not only yourself, but with the world.
I know how hard it is to find joy in anything with you are first fighting off depression and other mental illnesses. So I thought it was high time that I share them with you. If you are finding a hard time finding something that makes you smile, try mine out. You never know... you might find something that works. Or at least something that makes you feel a little brighter inside.
But when I say dancing, I'm not talking about waltz, tango, ballet, jazz, or any combination of the following. Okay, maybe some distant cousin of all of them combined.
When I say dance, I mean "I would feel like an idiot dancing like this in public" kinda dancing. I would never never dance like a toddler on speed in public. But behind closed doors, it's one of the most therapeutic things I've ever done. I'll get fancy and do spins. I'll get romantic and get a little ballet in there. I'll get adventurous and get it on like the movie Dirty Dancing (don't lie, you want to too). Shake it out. Rock it out. Feel stupid. Feel sexy. Feel better.
2 - Bake. But don't eat all the cookies yourself. That's bad. When I get really stressed out or overwhelmed, I pull out my mixer, turn on the oven, and bake something delicious. When nothing seems to be going right, I know that as soon as I start baking, life gets a little calmer. I think it's because I know that I am in control of something. I know that if I put all those ingredients together, they are going to make chocolate chip cookies or brownies or a cake. Everytime. All the time. There are no variables. In a world of what if's and craziness, it's comforting to know that baking will never change.
It can also be soothing to bake something for someone. Keep a few cookies for yourself, but pack the rest up and give it to your neighbor, or a friend, or even the mailman. Giving to someone else will instantly make you feel a little less crappy about life. Even when the world is banging you on the head with a baseball bat, knowing that YOU can make someone else's day a bit brighter can change your day too.
3 - Folding Laundry. Call me crazy, but this is one of my favorite things to do. I've seriously gone completely crazy. But I love it. I turn on some crappy TV in my bedroom, close the door, and get to folding. I have no idea why I love it so much. I really don't. But it's awesome for me.
4 - Write it out. In my case, I have my blog. I'm able to get stuff out on here. Most of it you all see. Some of it I keep for myself. But writing it out in any form can help tremendously. It gets "it" (anger, stress, worries, whatever) out of you and into the world. No one has to read it if you don't want them to. But it can help knowing that it's written down somewhere safe and you can deal with it later if need be. Writing is one of the best things I ever did and continue to do for myself.
The stuff that ends up on here is just as releasing and comforting as the stuff I hide away. When I can get some of the things that help me out to you, I take comfort in knowing that at least ONE person will find help in it. I know that even when I write the dark stuff, someone is feeling it with me, and knowing that neither of us is alone can be a good feeling. It sucks that we are there, but knowing we've got someone there sitting in the crap with us helps sometimes.
5 - I read trashy books. Yup. I said it. And judge me all you want. But boys have their porn, and I have my erotica. 50 Shades of Gray is freakin' amazing. End of discussion. Books are a great escape for me either way. But trashy ones just make me all warm and fuzzy inside. For obvious reasons you could say. Either way though, yes, I enjoy a trashy book as much as any other woman. I'll just stand up and admit it openly. (Side Note: I can hardly wait for Valentine's Day when the movie comes out... *drools*)
Do you already have something you do just for yourself? Share it below! You never know who could use a good idea like yours!