But are we?
Everyone focuses on the differences between men and women. The way we think, the way we act, what we consider important. The differences between us are overwhelming and too many to count.
But what do we have in common?
While women are more open about their feelings, and more willing to share, men have been taught to keep a straight face. They are taught that emotions are for women. That doesn't mean they don't have them. I see it first hand constantly. I'm sure all women do. I think that's why we spend so much time trying to get inside guys heads. There's got to be more in there. right?
And what about what we find important in the opposite sex?
Here are the top 7 things men want in a woman.
1 - To feel like your hero
2 - Acceptance
3 - Not to be left in the dark
4 - Blinders sex - the kind of sex that makes you feel connected to each other on a deep level
5 - Communication
6 - Sweat - Work out together!
7 - To have their own lives - Translate: Boys Night
Want to know which one surprises most women? Communication. Many women figure that talking is at the bottom of the totem pole for men because it can be so damn hard to talk to them about anything other than sports. But men want to be able to talk to you. We both want that.
What about women though?
1 - To feel loved
2 - To feel safe
3 - To feel seen
4 - To be able to nurture
5 - To feel sexually desired
6 - To be appreciated
7 - To feel like she can depend on you
Well, hey now! Some of these line up. Some of these go hand in hand!
Women want to feel safe and men want to be the hero. Dependability and feeling safe also go with this.
Both want really good sexual chemistry. Both want to feel connected to the other and loved on a deep level.
Both want to feel accepted and appreciated for who they are and what they do.
Are you seeing a trend. While both don't always want the same things, everyone single one can pair up with another. He can have his boys night, if he lets you take care of him when he's sick. You want to be seen by him, and if you're working up a sweat in those rockin' booty shorts at the gym, he will definitely take notice.
The key to every single point on both lists though is compromise. You can't expect him to always pour out his heart and soul, but when he wants to talk, listen! Guys, if she's had a bad day and is angry with the world, suggest going to the gym and letting her punch her way through.
We all have to be flexible. We have to support each other. We also have to realize that we aren't all that different.
Men may be from Mars, and women may be from Venus, but we've both chosen to meet in the middle on Earth.