But is that the stuff that really speaks to you?
- Words of Affirmation
- Acts of Service
- Receiving Gifts
- Quality Time
- Physical Touch
We all need aspects from all five languages. But we all have one (sometimes two) that really hit home with us. Take me for example. My main love language is Acts of Service. Quality time and receiving gifts are tied for second place. So what does my love language mean?
The way I feel loved is when my husband (or anyone who cares for me) is when they do stuff for me. Do a load of laundry, put away the dishes, clean up after themselves (for once!). Laziness, broken commitments, and adding more to my work load makes you fall on my "You Suck" list. Help me when you can, and you will forever remain on my "You Don't Suck" list.
What about the other languages though?
Words of Affirmation. You are the exception to "actions speak louder than words." You love hearing that you are loved. But what really sends you soaring is hearing why you are loved. You thrive on being encouraged, complimented, and having positive words sent your way. Any sort of insult or put down can leave you hurt and broken.
Receiving gifts. No, this love language doesn't mean that you are a greedy and/or a gold digger. It's not even so much the gift itself but the thought that went into the gift. Knowing that someone was thinking of you and thinking about what would make you smile sends you into school girl in love.
Quality Time. To feel loved, you need uninterrupted time alone with your significant other. No TV, no phones, no kids, just you two alone in a room. Deep conversation is what really gets your heart racing. Distractions and postponed dates make you feel unappreciated and sad.
Physical Touch. This doesn't mean you are some crazed sex addict (though I personally wouldn't blame you). You love hugs, holding hands, kisses on the cheek, and a hand on your shoulder. Long distance relationships don't work for you since a physical presence is needed on a constant basis. If you start feeling neglected or abused, you are out the door.
Understanding your own love language is only half the battle though. Knowing and respecting your significant others love language is a key to making love really speak volumes.