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Take Your Own Advice

1/23/2015

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People like to talk to me. That's not me tooting my own horn. That's just fact. I'm a good listener. Along with that though is I don't sugar coat things. If you ask my opinion, you will get it point blank. It may not be what you want to hear, but you'll get it all the same. I make people angry sometimes by doing that (just ask my younger sister). But I do it that way for a reason.

There's no use sugar coating the truth. No one benefits from that. I'm a big believer in facing problems head on and pushing through them. Putting them off or indirectly dealing with them won't help the problem and can sometimes even make it worse. 

But here is where my fault comes in. 

I don't take my own advice.

I'm good at helping others through their problems. It's what I live for. Helping other get to their happy place is something I enjoy doing. I've been told I should be a therapist so I can at least get paid. But I'm not about that. And the tuition is crazy expensive. I've always been a "fixer" and I'm someone people lean on when they can no longer stand up straight. 

The problem with that is, I end up with no one to lean on sometimes. 

I constantly tell others to lean on me or someone they trust for support when they need it. I rarely do that myself though. I've become too good at letting people lean on me and not leaning on them when I need to. I don't want to burden them. I've set myself up as the strong one, who can take on anything. And it's a problem. 

Take now for instance... there are a million things going on with friends and family right now. I have a lot of people leaning on me right now as they stumble through their problems. I'm happy to do it. That's what I do for the people that I love and care for. 

But I can't lie when I say I'm starting to crack under the pressure. 

I feel like I'm standing in front of a firing squad being shot at. I'm protecting those that I love from the bullets, but because everyone is hunkered down behind me, they don't see that I'm starting to bleed out. But even then, I keep protecting who I can. I keep helping who I can. 

But I need to start taking my own advice. I need to start listening to myself a bit more. I need to start letting go of my inability to lean on others. It's hard for me though. I don't want to be seen as weak. It's a vicious circle. Either way, I need to start opening up and voicing my own feelings more instead of just giving to others. 

So here's my advice to you...

Take your own advice. 

5 Comments
Robin link
1/23/2015 12:12:38 am

I think we all have a problem with taking our advice sometimes. I think it might be the stubbornness in all of us coming through!

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Maniac Mom
1/23/2015 07:03:59 am

That's very true. And it's also easier to see our flaws and fix them in others.

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Michelle Cannon link
1/23/2015 04:31:02 am

Sometimes taking one's own advice isn't as easy as giving it. Thanks for sharing your heart at the #TGIFhop! (By the way - I write on the topic of bipolar disorder.)

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Maniac Mom
1/23/2015 07:04:43 am

Thanks for stopping by!

I would love to check out your blog! What's the address?

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BritishMumUSA link
2/1/2015 02:09:36 am

Ok so we are all like this in some form ( the ones built like you and me) we love to do for others, then we find ourselves in a bind and we HATE to ask of others. We push on, cope, deal, handle.... Then it all becomes a bit much and we crack. DUDE!!! Step back, say NO and take care of yourself first.

I started doing that a year ago, and my family like me for it. I am nice again, I am having patience again, I have time for them and ME again. Please don't crack, please say NO and please take time for yourself :)

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    My name is Kristen and I suffer from Borderline Personality Disorder. This is my hysterical journey as a mom of two dealing with life twists and turns while trying to not let my "crazy" get too out of hand. I strive to be a happily depressed mom.
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